When you see a rosebud, a bloomed lotus, a drop of rain on a jasmine flower, a smiling new-born baby, a 2-week-old small puppy, God’s picture or a cancer survivor with 100% strength, it brings an instant smile on your face and graces you with positivity, isn’t it? One naturally gets filled up with positivity the moment it comes in contact with those radiating positivity. This is an instant reaction that happens!
Hence, to follow the positive thought pattern:
- Be in touch with the positive.
- Become positive.
Or in other words, take in positivity and give out positivity. Simple! Here are some tips that may help you get there.
1) Appreciate everyone!
Appreciate your mother for preparing your favorite dish; your father for taking you on a holiday. Say thank you to your friend for all his help. Congratulate and give a nice little gift to your sister for passing her exams. Say ‘thanks’ to waiters and bus conductors for rendering you service. Follow this positive thought pattern and you’ll see the wonders it can do for your life! When you share your appreciation with anyone you meet, you instantly get satisfaction and happiness inside, which automatically gets transferred to people outside.
2) Everyone makes mistakes. So let’s learn to accept and forgive them now
If any person makes a mistake, don’t get angry. Instead, look at the person’s positive qualities. You can even help the person in whatever way you can. Remember, we ourselves have made so many mistakes in our life. And our parents, friends, relatives, colleagues have forgiven us so easily. So, let’s follow this positive thought pattern and learn to accept and forgive people in life. You can even pray for the person so that he/she comes out of the mistake.
3) Show ‘No Entry’ board to our ‘Tit for Tat’ attitude
Our negativity is because of our ‘wrong intellect’. Furthermore, its nature is such that it rapidly multiplies and soon becomes a big obstacle. People then begin to send negative vibes to us, and we, in turn, send those vibes back to them. If our friend tells us “You are a lazy bone”, we would tell him back, “You are a sick paranoid person”.
What did we gain out of it? This is a ‘Tit for Tat’ cycle, which will never end. Positivity alone can end this cycle. Therefore, decide to follow the positive thought pattern henceforth. Do not say anything hurtful or negative to anyone. Instead, appreciate their good qualities, whenever possible. This brings inner peace and binds good karmas whereas negativity will bind bad karmas, which you will have to bear for the next life!
4) Allow your home to remain a beautiful garden
Every home has unique and different personalities that come together. These personalities must knit with each other in a peaceful manner, for all belong to one family. One may have to adjust and let go of certain things. But most important is to feel positive about the different natures. In a beautiful garden there are all sorts of plants and flowers – some are roses, some daffodils, some hibiscus, some cacti. They all live together in a peaceful manner, don’t they? A rose has tiny thorns. If you complain about the thorns, who will be at loss? Only you.
However, if you learn how to pick the rose by avoiding the thorns then you win! Hence, always follow the positive thought pattern – do not let the rose go because of the thorns and appreciate the thorns as well!
5) Read a positive book
Negativity is very contagious. If negativity surrounds you, you too may become negative very soon. So, to break this cycle, show courage and disconnect from the negative surrounding. Make a firm resolve that ‘No more sorrow, grief, resentment, negativity or sadness in my life!’ Adopt positive thinking instead.
Start reading books and stories, and visit websites that promote positivity. One website that I know of is https://www.dadabhagwan.org, which has free eBooks, videos, and vitalizing quotes.
Here are a couple of them:
“Any good thing will be ruined by talking negatively about it; similarly bad thing will improve by speaking positive about it.”
“No one should be hurt in the slightest’ – such should be one’s egoism. That is a ‘positive’ ego.” – Param Pujya Dada Bhagwans
6) See noble and be noble
When you see someone’s noble character, who for the sake of other’s happiness, happily gives away his own belongings to others without any hesitation, let it inspire you. Watch out for the nobility in others and you will soon find yourself on the path to positivity.
7) Count what you have!
Positivity brings peace while negativity brings only suffering. This is the reason why the Lord preaches to keep our eyes on what we have, rather than bring tears in eyes thinking of what we don’t have. By adopting this positive thought pattern, you can turn every situation into a positive one.
8) Practice patience and endurance
Read stories of how great saints displayed extraordinary patience and endurance, and ultimately won over the negative forces with their love and positivity. These true stories inspire us to follow the same positive thought pattern and rise upwards in our development.
9) While you strive to maintain smooth interactions outside, keep your heart clean and positive inside
Many times, we choose not to speak negatively as we do not want to confront or fight with the other person. But inside, our thought pattern is highly negative. We keep getting irritated and also develop abhorrence for that person. This is not good! All your external efforts go down the drain when your internal vibrations are not the same. Hence, inculcate a pure inner intent that, “I do not want to have any conflict with the other person, not even in my thoughts. Whatever he/she says is perfectly acceptable to me, from within as well.” Have a firm determination that “I want to follow positive thought patterns only.”