Jul 15

Self-esteem is a core identity issue, essential to personal validation and our ability to experience joy. Once achieved, it comes from the inside out. But it has being tortured from the outside in. A women with low self esteem always produce negative feelings about herself. These negative messages are the result of the culture and relationship around her. These relationships always wants to drag the women to look downwards in relation to youth, beauty and thinness.

There are many women magazines which has being program to focus all their efforts on women’s appearance. Many girls, by age 12, sacrifices all their enjoyable eatables to prevent from gaining weight. They become too conscious about their diets. There are many ads related to cosmetic surgery, to repair our ageing bodies, as if the natural process of ageing bodies is an accident or a disease. Yet, with all these efforts they still never feel they are good enough.

Low self esteem results in depression and anxiety. In the workplace, women with low self-esteem tend to be self-depreciating, to minimize their accomplishments, or let others take credit for their work. They never move up. Finally, with friends, they are unable to say no. They end up doing favors they don’t want to do, or have any time for. They end up going where they don’t want to go, with people they don’t want to go with!

Relationships also affects due to low self esteem. Their needs are not met by their partner because they feel like they don’t deserve to have them met, or are uncomfortable asking. Their relationships with children can suffer if they are unable to discipline effectively, set limits, or demand the respect they deserve. Low self esteem is like a genetic disease which passes from generation to generation. A mother of low self esteem presenting a model of women in front of her daughters and a model of wife in front of her son.

But that can be improved if she remembers that no one deserves to be abused. If something bad has happened to her, it doesnt mean that there is anything wrong with her. No one is perfect in her life. You should choose your own identity. Never let anyone drags you downhill. You shouldnt be dependent on anyone. You can discard the popular cultural image and replace it with something real.

In the nutshell, I just wants to conclude that believe in yourself